Yesterday I went to the gym for the first time in, well, I don’t know how long. My friend invited me to go with her, and I figured it would be more motivating to follow through if I had someone to push me. I walked in feeling pretty good, and walked, errr, I mean, waddled out, with my muscles screaming at me. It’s not like we even did anything too wild and crazy… we walked on the track for a bit, then did some sets on some weight machines. I didn’t want to push too hard and injure myself, but I also didn’t want to go too easy and not really benefit from my workout.
My friend was kind enough to show me how to use some of the machines I wasn’t sure about, and gave me little bits of encouragement as we went along. At first, I felt kind of silly for not knowing how to do some of the exercises, and felt a little wimpy for not being able to lift as much weight as others around me. And then I reminded myself that it has literally been years since I last went to the gym, and I wasn’t going to be able to jump right back in and lift as much as I could have in the past. In order to avoid injury and frustration, I needed to start slow, knowing that I would be able to do more as I made the necessary progress. I had to remind myself that it was okay if I made mistakes and asked for help. Doing so would only help me to get better.
As I’ve thought about this over the past day, I’ve been thinking about how we, as teachers, have the responsibility and honor to teach our students that starting slow is okay, and that mistakes happen as we learn and figure things out. It’s simply part of the learning process.
It’s common, and even natural, for our students to feel a little silly or unsure about something when they first start learning about it. Lack of confidence can feel overwhelming to students, but as teachers, we can view it as a chance to help students grow and to gain confidence. It’s important that we take their lack of confidence and use it as a tool to push and encourage our students. We ought to be extra careful to not use that uncertainty against our students– doing so would discourage students from trying, and would eventually lead to slower progress and even more uncertainty.
I see it like this– had my friend brushed me off and not given me encouragement, I might not have pushed myself to try new things at the gym. I would have probably stuck to the “easy” machines and maybe even avoided the machines all together. But because I had someone cheering me on and being patient with me, I felt compelled to keep going and to keep trying, even when I felt silly and unsure.
Similarly, if we brush off our students and if we don’t give them encouragement, they aren’t going to feel comfortable making mistakes and aren’t going to want to take any risks. Progress would be halted, and confidence would stay stagnant. As we cheer our students on, they get more comfortable with the learning process and all of its parts– even the not so fun parts of the process, like making mistakes and not knowing the answers.
So like me, with my sore muscles and slow start, our students must know that it’s okay to start slow, and it’s okay to experience growing pains and sore muscles. Once they get comfortable with being uncomfortable, magic starts to happen. And as a teacher, sitting next to them as they grow, stretch, and learn is a true gift!