Sharing is Caring!

Sharing can be a difficult skill to learn, especially for kids in younger grades. Preschoolers and kindergarteners in particular often have a natural tendency to not want to share. Sometimes it can be hard for them to see that they aren’t giving up a toy or other object, but instead are just letting someone else have a turn. As teachers, we can model this for our students and can do our best to teach it in our classrooms. 

Since kids love picture books, I found a few children’s books that teach about sharing. These can even be read to older grades if needed. 

Not Enough Lollipops by Megan Maynor and illustrated by Micah Player

Alice and her friends are at an assembly when the principal announced that the last raffle prize would be a huge bucket of lollipops. Alice was the lucky winner! But she soon found that everyone else wanted a lollipop too. The other students began to try to persuade Alice to give them one or convince her that some students didn’t deserve one for various reasons. Alice found herself getting flustered. She finally took control of the situation and declared that everyone deserved a lollipop. She had the students get into a line, and she handed out lollipops one at a time until everyone who wanted one had one. The students who had tried to persuade Alice into giving out the lollipops felt bad for the things they had said. They realized that there was enough for everyone, and that it was nice to share with everyone.

Mine! written and illustrated by Sue Heap

Amy had a blankie, bear, bunny, and bird that she loved very much. She was very happy when it was just her and her blankie and stuffies. Her twin brothers came in and wanted to play. They took bear and bunny without asking permission, and didn’t stop when Amy asked them to. Baby Joe even wanted to play. She grabbed the toys from her brothers’ hands and not so nicely told them the toys were not theirs. Her brothers were sad. Amy realized that she needed to share. She handed a toy to each brother and they all four played together. Amy learned that by sharing, everyone got to have fun!

That’s (Not) Mine written by Anna Kang and illustrated by Christopher Weyant

Two bears are fighting over a chair. The brown bear claims it is his because the blue bear got up and moved from the seat. The blue bear explains that he had sat there first, therefore it was his chair. The brown bear wouldn’t move. Blue bear brings in a rolling office chair. Brown bear is interested in it and wants to try it. After asking several times, the blue bear allows the brown bear to take the chair for a spin, only to end up crashing. Meanwhile, the blue bear has taken back the big chair. A fight ensues and they both end up crashing to the ground. Realizing they were silly to be fighting over a chair, they apologize and go play outside.

The New Small Person written and illustrated by Lauren Child

Elmore Green was an only child. He loved having everything to himself– toys, candy, his parents, and more. But one day, his parents bring home a new small person, and suddenly Elmer’s world is turned upside down. He is no longer the only one his parents have to attend to, and he doesn’t get to choose everything like he is used to doing. He doesn’t like this new small person and wants it to go back to wherever it came from, but the new person stayed and continued to grow. He didn’t like this small person following him everywhere. That changed one night when Elmer had a scary dream. This new small person hopped into Elmer’s bed to comfort him. Soon, Elmer realized that it was okay to have a brother, and that doing things together was more fun than doing things alone.

The Hare Who Wouldn’t Share written and illustrated by Steve Small

Hare liked to be by himself and most definitely didn’t like to share. He had a whole patch of turnips that he had grown, and wanted them all for himself. When a family of rabbits moved in just down the way from Hare, they stopped to say hello and admire Hare’s turnips. Hare was grumpy and told them to go away and that he did not want to share. One day Hare noticed the rabbits had a lovely patch of carrots growing by their burrow. The rabbits made soup with the carrots and invited neighbors to join them for a party. He could not figure out why the rabbits would want to share something they had worked so hard for. One night, Hare came across a big boar in the woods. The boar was greedy and mean and snatched Hare’s turnips right out of his hands. Hare knew the boar would head to the rabbits’ carrot patch next. He quickly ran home to gather some turnips to make a trail for the boar to follow. This bought him enough time to warn the rabbits and help them harvest all of their carrots. When the boar came, there weren’t any carrots or rabbits to be found, as they were all safe in the burrow. While Hare was helping the rabbits, the boar ate every last turnip in Hare’s patch. The rabbits come to the rescue and offer Hare a place to stay for the winter. Hare learns the importance of sharing and being kind.

Pig the Pug written and illustrated by Aaron Blabey

The Pig the Pug series is one of my favorite children’s book series. Told in a rhyme format, they all teach great lessons in a fun way. In this book, Pig is a very selfish pug. He lives in a house with another dog named Trevor. Trevor always wants to play with Pig and his toys, but Pig won’t have it. Afraid Trevor will steal all of his toys, Pig gathers the toys and makes a big pile so that Trevor can’t take them. Pig stands on top of the pile to protect it, and soon finds himself in trouble, as the pile is not stable. He takes a big tumble and, much to his dismay, is soon forced to share his toys with Trevor while he is recovering from his fall. 

Teaching students the importance of sharing can be fun, and these cute books can help! After all, sharing is caring! 

Start Low to Grow

Recently, my seven year old has started (loudly) expressing his disgust with me every time I remind him to do his assigned chore, pick up his room, help fold his laundry, etc. He is not interested in anything other than having fun, and honestly, sometimes I don’t blame him. In the midst of one of his defiant moments, he (again, loudly) said, “Mom! Why do you always have to boss me around and tell me to do things like clean my room?!” 

What I saw as a simple request for him to pick up his toys, he saw as me being mean and bossy. He saw it as a threat to his ability to choose for himself. And while that couldn’t be father from the truth, I can see why he might have thought that. As the adult, I can see the bigger picture at play here, and can see that teaching him basic skills when he is young will help him greatly as he gets older. As the kid, he only sees play time being taken away.

As his mom, part of my job is to teach foundational skills that will be built upon and that are necessary for successful adulthood. I wouldn’t expect him to plan, prepare, serve, and clean up an entire meal by himself– it would be a recipe for disaster! But, I can involve him in and teach him step by step. I can have him set the table, get ingredients out, or have him unload the dishwasher. Those are all skills he is capable of and can safely do. Learning a little here and a little there paves the way for bigger tasks later.

Teachers have a similar role with their students. We start at the bottom and work our way up. No one would expect a kindergartner to solve a three digit multiplication problem, nor would you expect a fifth grader to solve a complex equation designed for a high school senior. Doing so would just lead to frustration on all sides. Similarly, one wouldn’t expect a first grader to be able to write a detailed multi-paragraph research paper with properly cited sources, simply because they lack the necessary skills to do so. 

Providing students with the skills and knowledge they need to successfully move forward is a crucial part of being a teacher. In order for teachers to know where to start, they need to know where their students are. This is why assessments are so important in the classroom. Teachers don’t have to give a big, formal test to see where their students are, though those do have their place. Informal assessments that are done along the way can be absolutely crucial to how a teacher moves forward with what they are teaching. 

As teachers gather formal and informal data, they are able to pivot and make any needed changes to how or what they are teaching so that they are able to help students succeed. It’s similar to when you are driving a car. Your mind is constantly making observations about surroundings, then telling you to make any needed corrections to keep your car where it needs to be. Paying attention early on and throughout the process can save you from going the totally wrong direction or worse, crashing.

It’s also important that we help students see why we are teaching the things that we are teaching. Like my son not fully seeing why I was asking him to clean up his room and do his chore, students also often miss the why behind what they are being taught. As we teach them and guide them into new material, we can remind them of what they’ve already learned that will make this new content more accessible, and we can also help them see that what they are going to learn will help them in the future as they build upon their knowledge.

Teaching can be overwhelming at times, sure. But so can learning, and it’s important that we keep that in mind as we prepare lessons and teach our students. We must meet them where they are, sometimes even back tracking a little if needed, to make the progress that we know they can make. When we do this, magic happens, and things begin to click in students’ minds. And that, my friends, is when the real progress is made.

What I Wish I Would Have Known

It’s graduation season! It’s a bittersweet milestone, but is definitely one to be celebrated. I remember my graduation day, and remember feeling so anxious but excited. I had my whole life planned out, and I was just sure it was going to go exactly how I wanted it to: go to college with my best friend, find a good guy and get married by 23, graduate as a nurse, have some kids, and so on. Boy was I in for a surprise when my plans didn’t follow that timeline, nor did most of my plans actually happen. I went to a different college than my friend, switched majors from nursing to elementary education, back to nursing, then eventually got my degree in secondary education. I didn’t get married until I was 30, and the kids came soon after that. As I think back and reflect on how the last 23 years of my live have gone, I’m glad my original plans didn’t follow my timeline. I would have missed out on so many things that were crucial to me becoming who I am today. But man, sometimes I wish I could go back and tell my naive 18 year old self a thing or to to give her some advice and encouragement about the future.

I figured other people might feel the same way, and might have something to say to their 18 year old selves. I asked several people what they would tell themselves, if they knew then what they know now. The answers ranged from the silly and light hearted to the serious and profound. So seniors, this one’s for you– a little advice from people who have been there, done that, and want to pass on some words of wisdom!

  • Don’t rush growing up. You will never have it all figured out.
  • Trust your gut.
  • Travel more, work hard, don’t spend more than you earn, save, believe, and invest in yourself.
  • Every life event and breakup led me to my husband and life I have today, and I wouldn’t change that.
  • At 18, I didn’t know it would take me 10 more years to get married. Don’t worry about that.
  • Don’t open a credit card— save for what you want/need.
  • Love YOUR life. Don’t worry about what others say or do. Let them live the life they want. You choose you!
  • It’s okay to not know what you want to major in. It’s okay to switch majors— college is an investment. Make sure you are getting out of it what you want.
  • Not all friendships will last past graduation. That’s ok. There’s new friends out there.
  • You are worth it. You matter.
  • If college isn’t your thing, it’s ok. It doesn’t have to be. 
  • Spend time with those you love.
  • Never miss a chance to say thank you or I love you.
  • Take the risk— if it works out, awesome! If not, you learned from it and are better for it.
  • Make the effort to study and challenge yourself.
  • Advice given by others is second, learn to hear your own voice first and loudest.
  • It’s worth hanging around to see how the story ends.
  • The smart thing to do and the right thing to do are very rarely the same thing to do. But it never changes what the right thing to do is. Choose what is right. Always.
  • Take more pictures.
  • Always trust your instincts.
  • Apply for all the things! Enjoy everything!
  • Feeling dread all the time isn’t normal— it’s ok to get help if you need it.
  • Keep doing what makes yourself proud.
  • You’ll have so much more fun and peace if you don’t stress about dating. Don’t rush it!
  • Give yourself some grace.
  • You don’t have to have it all figured out at 18. The best is yet to come!
  • It’s ok to not know what you want.
  • Work on yourself— make yourself the kind of person you want to be.
  • Don’t be afraid. Go for it. If you fail, then try something else.
  • Try to save money.
  • Be smart with money.
  • Get the degree. Be able to support yourself.
  • If your friends are dragging you down, ditch them.
  • Don’t settle for less!
  • Be flexible— sometimes things don’t go the way you hoped they would, and you have to adapt and adjust. 
  • Look for the good in people.
  • Look for the good in every day. 
  • Be patient and the right partner will come when you are doing what you need to be doing.
  • Focus on figuring out what you want to do and work towards that goal.
  • Be gentle on yourself. Celebrate your wins, no matter how small.
  • You are doing amazing things.
  • You can do hard things.
  • Everyone you come across is fighting some kind of battle you know nothing about. Be kind.
  • Be patient with yourself and with others. We’re all doing the best we can.

Take a minute and reflect on your graduation day– what would you tell yourself?

Congratulations to the class of 2025! You did it!

Letting Kids Fail

My third grader is given a weekly homework sheet, with one side math practice and the other reading practice. Sometimes the reading assignment is to read a passage and answer some comprehension questions, and sometimes it involves reading as much of a passage as possible in one minute, on four separate occasions, while having an adult follow along and count any errors made. The teacher sends the paper home on Monday, and it is due on Friday. With four days given to finish the assignment, you’d think it wouldn’t be a problem to complete it. 

By Thursday night, after my husband and I have both asked (and offered to sit down with him while he does it) our son what feels like 182 times to get his worksheet done, we are tired of asking and have started to feel like we are nagging him. One week last month, he dragged his feet, as usual, and was in a panic on Thursday night when he still hadn’t finished his assignment. Of course it was a week where he had to read a passage four different times, and we were running out of time. Around 10:00 pm, we finally just told him to go to bed and we could try again in the morning. 

Morning came, and he still had zero interest in finishing his work. Out of time and energy, I told him to put his paper in his backpack and just turn in what he did have done. We talked about who was responsible for the assignment being incomplete, and what he needed to do about it. He admitted it was on him, and that he should have done it when we first asked him to. I sent him out the door and hoped for the best.

The protective mom in me wanted to keep him home until he finished it so that he wouldn’t lose points on the assignment. How could I let my own child fail? He’s only nine, after all. As I battled internally for a few minutes, a little voice inside reminded me that failing is part of life. We all have to learn by failing at some point in our lives. Is it a hard lesson to learn? Absolutely. Is it a necessary lesson to learn? 100%. 

As a mom and former teacher, I know how hard it is hard to watch the kids you love fall short. It’s hard to watch them struggle. When our kids are younger, we are there to swoop in and fix things for them. We keep them in a little bubble of sorts to keep them safe and protected. But as they get older, we can’t continue to solve all their problems and keep them in a bubble. As parents (and teachers), it is our job to set up our children for success in life, and one of those crucial lessons to teach is that failure is inevitable, and that it’s okay to fall short sometimes. We must give them the tools they will need for when they do fail so that they can appropriately adjust and find ways to regroup, rethink, and try again. 

So while I wanted desperately to save my son from not getting full points on his homework assignment, I also wanted desperately to teach my son that our actions and choices very often determine our success, and that failure is part of life. I wanted him to know that it’s not the end of the world to mess up on one assignment, and that he could try again next week, learning from his previous experience. I wanted him to know that how we handle failure is important and how we choose to do better the next time is what matters the most. 

As parents and teachers, we’re faced with some pretty tough internal battles. We naturally want to protect the kids we love, but also need to remember that sometimes too much protection and sheltering ultimately doesn’t help, but hinders. We must find a balance between the two and hope we are giving our children and students what they’ll need to succeed in school and in life.