Making Friends Can Be Tricky

Think back to your childhood and the friends you had. Maybe you’re still friends with those same people. Perhaps you just check in on them occasionally via social media, or maybe you’ve lost contact completely. Regardless of your friendship status with them now, one thing is certain— those early friendships made a lasting impression on you and helped shaped you into the person you are today. Childhood friendships helped you to understand what friendship means and what it looks like. They taught you what it means to be a good friend, and sometimes, unfortunately, what it means to be a not-so-good friend. 

Childhood is such a crucial time for molding and shaping young minds. Learning how to be a friend is a skill that is taught at an early age. As this new school year begins, it’s a good time to remind kids what good friendships look like, and to encourage them to make new friends too. Picture books are such an excellent teaching tool, so I headed to my library and found a few books that teach really good lessons on friendship.

In no particular order, these were my favorites that I found:

Friends Stick Together by Hannah E. Harrison

Rupert is a rhino who is quite proper and reserved. He doesn’t enjoy attention, loud things, or annoying friends. Levi is a tick bird who is the complete opposite of Rupert— he is loud, annoying, and likes lame jokes. Levi won’t leave Rupert alone and makes a scene everywhere they go. Rupert tries everything he can think of to get Levi to go away, but nothing works until he finally just tells him he wants to be alone. Levi does go away, but soon, Rupert starts to notice that life isn’t quite the same without his friend. After he realizes he misses Levi, Rupert apologizes and is happy to have Levi back.

This story beautifully illustrates that two different personalities can still be friends. It also touches a little bit on symbiosis— an excellent little tie into science!

When A Friend Needs A Friend by Roozeboos

Aya and Oskar are friends. Oskar can build almost anything, and is quite good at it. Together, they create stories about the things he builds, and love to visit a construction site where all the workers know them. Oskar can get very loud when he gets very excited, but also can get very quiet when he is sad. Sometimes he just wants to be left alone for a long period of time. At first, Aya didn’t know why and thought she had done something wrong or had hurt his feelings somehow. After visiting the construction site by herself, she learns that sometimes Oskar just has big emotions and needs some time to process them. She patiently waits for Oskar to be ready to play again, and remains his friend through it all.

I loved that this book teaches kids that it’s okay to feel what you feel, and that it’s ok to need your space. I also really liked that it showed that friendships can still remain strong, even when one person needs a little bit of a break. Having friends who are there for you through the good and the bad is so important.

Best Friends in the Universe by Hector and Louie Written by Stephanie Watson and Illustrated by Le Uyen Pham

Hector and Louie are the very best friends. They like to tell jokes, dance, and make up new foods together. They tell each other secrets and have all kinds of fun together. One day, Hector accidentally slips and tells Louie’s biggest secret. This begins a fight between the two of them. They stop playing together, and soon notice that their lives just aren’t the same without each other. Soon they have made up and are back to their regular silly antics.

Friendships aren’t always easy, and disagreements and disappointments can happen. This book did a great job of showing that, and also showing how people can apologize and still be friends. The illustrations in this book are darling and make it even more fun.

Buddy’s New Buddy Written by Christina Geist and Illustrated by Tim Bowers

Buddy is so sad when his best friend moves away. He begins a new school year without any friends, and is feeling quite sad about it. His big sister teaches him how to make new friends. Soon a new student moves into his class, and he starts to notice that they have lots of things in common. The become friends quickly and have all kinds of fun together.

As someone who moved often during my childhood, I appreciated this book. Making friends can be tricky, especially when you’re new or when someone you love moves away. This book shows kids to keep trying and to not give up when trying to make a new friend. Sometimes you just have to be patient, but there is always a friend out there for everyone.

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As the new school year gets going, take a few minutes to encourage your students to be a good friend and to be friends with the kids who don’t have friends. They’ll never know just how much of an impact they might have on someone!

Back to School Word Scramble

Middle grade teachers– this one’s for you! If you’re needing a quick self-starter for your students to do sometime during the first week of school, I’ve got you covered! Below you will find a free downloadable Back to School Word Scramble worksheet.

Download, print, and make some copies for your class, and just like that, you’ve got yourself a quick activity for your students to do while you take attendance. To extend the activity, you could also have them write a short story using all of the words!

**Please do not re-sell, re-post, or claim printable as your own.**

Breakin’ That Ice

First day of school nerves are real for teachers and students alike. I used to tell my students that it was ok to feel nervous— everyone else felt the same way, even if they wouldn’t admit it. I would venture to guess that even most teachers feel some degree of first day of school jitters. 

One way to combat these jitters is through ice-breaker and getting to know you activities. Most people don’t love them, but they are effective for getting people moving around and interacting with one another. And if there’s one thing you need on the first day of school, it’s to get people interacting and getting to know each other!

Perhaps you have a tried and true ice breaker that you’ve used every year for the last 25 years. If it works, it works— no need to fix what isn’t broken, right? If, however, you’re searching for something new to try, I’ve got you covered! I’ve compiled a list of fun ideas to break the ice and get to know your students, and to have them get to know each other! 

Roll & Tell

Divide students into groups of 3-4. Give each group a die and a set of instructions. Each number on the die is attached to a getting to know you question. If a student rolls a 4, they would answer the prompt assigned to number 4, and so on. Once all students in the group have answered all the questions, you can come back together as a class. Call on students randomly to have them share something they learned about someone in their group. 

Possible Questions:

  • What is your favorite subject in school?
  • What is your favorite restaurant?
  • When you have free time, what do you like to do?
  • If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go?
  • What is your family like? Do you have siblings?
  • Tell about the craziest thing that has ever happened to you.
  • What was the highlight of your summer?
  • If you could invent any holiday, what would it be and why?
  • What goals do you have for this school year?
  • What do you want to be when you grow up?
  • What is your least favorite chore to do?
  • What is your favorite book?
  • What skill would you most like to learn?
  • Do you collect anything?
  • What is one cool fact about you that not many people know?
  • If you could choose a super power, what would you want to be able to do?
  • If you could go to lunch with anyone, dead or alive, who would it be and why?
  • Would you rather be able to visit the past or the future?

One Word

Group students into small groups— 4-5 students per group is perfect. Give each group a starting word. Groups must then create a sentence, one word at a time, by going around the circle with each student adding on a word to the sentence when it is their turn. It must make sense, must be a real word, and must be a word that is well known. You can extend this activity by having groups pass around a paper to write on. They can create a whole story, one word at a time, as a group. 

This encourages groups to work together, students to listen carefully, and students to be patient with one another. Hilarity is sure to ensue as groups come up with some silly sentences and stories! 

Beach Ball Toss

Inflate a plastic beach ball, then use a permanent marker to write several getting to know you questions all over the ball. Have students form a circle and toss the ball around. When the ball is caught, the catcher answers the question that their right thumb is on, then throws the ball to someone else, and so on. Continue until everyone has had a chance to answer at least one question.

Rock, Paper, Scissors Tournament

This game is just as it sounds! Divide the class into two groups, and have students line up in two lines, facing each other. Partners will play three rounds of Rock, Paper, Scissors, and the best of three wins. One line will stay stationary, and the other line will move to the right or left (you choose!), and play continues. 

Random Objects

This is a fun one to assign on the first day of school, especially for older grades. For their first assignment, have students bring a random object from home— the more random, the better. They must keep the object hidden until it is their turn to share. Put a table in the center of the room and have students form a circle around the table. One by one, each student comes forward and places their object on the table. The fun part of this is that they cannot talk— no explaining what the object is or why they chose it. Laughter is definitely okay, because there are sure to be some hilarious objects brought. 

Be sure to set guidelines of what is and is not okay to bring to school.

Four Corners

Before class starts, take four pieces of paper and write the numbers 1-4 separately on a paper. Place each paper in a different corner of the room. Prepare a list of questions with four possible answers each. After each question and its answers are read, students must pick which answer they like the most then move to that corner of the room. Continue until all questions have been read. 

Ex: What is your favorite subject?

1- Math
2- English/Writing/Reading
3- PE
4- Science

Students who enjoy math the most would move to the corner that has the “1” sign, and so on.

Would you Rather

This is a classic game that everyone can participate in. Prepare a list of “would you rather” questions that are appropriate for the age of your students. The questions can be about anything; it’s fun to mix up the type of questions to include some funny, some serious, some gross (kids love these ones!), and some ridiculous. Have students show their answers by holding up a green paper for answer A, and a blue paper for answer B. If you can’t think of any questions on your own, the Internet is full of lists upon lists of great questions for all ages, occasions, and topics.

This or That Circle Game

You may need a larger space for this game. Create two large intersecting circles on the floor—  tape works really well for this. Make a list of several “this or that” questions. Read each question, then have students pick circle A or B according to which option they like best. If they like both options equally, they can stand in the intersecting portion of the circles. You’re essentially making a large Venn diagram! Continue until all questions have been read. The questions don’t have to be super deep— simple works best here. Things like “chocolate or vanilla” or “Summer or Winter” work really well for this game. Again, if you need some help coming up with questions to use, a quick Google or Pinterest search will provide you with plenty of options!

These are just a few ideas of the many that are out there. Activities like these are a great way to ease back to school jitters and bring your class together. Happy Back to School, friends!

Class Starters

Bell ringer. Self starter. Warm-up. Do-Now. Question of the Day. Bell work. Any of these sound familiar? Whatever you call it, many teachers use them: a quick mini-assignment that students complete at the beginning of class to get them focused on the material, review learned concepts, and for teachers to informally assess how students are doing. 

Back in 2009, I was an eager intern, ready to take on my first year of teaching. I remembered some of my Language Arts teachers beginning each class with a language exercise, frequently referred to as “Daily Oral Language” or DOL. In my mind, I these exercises were such a fun way to start class (probably because I loved grammar, writing, and reading). I don’t think everyone felt the same. In an effort to emulate some of my favorite teachers, I decided I was going to start my classes by having my students do DOL. 

I’d roll my overhead projector to the front of the room, place my carefully selected DOL exercises on the projector, and have my students open their notebooks and begin. I quickly realized that, much to my dismay, my students did not share my enthusiasm for sentence corrections, grammar exercises, and spelling practice. Clearly I needed to rethink my strategy and find something that worked a little better. 

It took some time to figure out what worked best for me and my classes, but I eventually settled into a new routine: rather than do DOL every day, I would rotate what we did. Some days we would do DOL, sometimes we would begin class with silent reading, and other times, we would begin with a journal prompt. The variety worked well, and kept things interesting. 

After my intern year, I found a teaching position where I taught my own classes every other day. On the days I wasn’t in my own classroom, I was a substitute for other teachers in the building. I enjoyed seeing what other teachers were doing as their bell-ringer activities. They were always a great way to start class and get students in the mindset for whatever class they were in. It gave students a reminder of material they had already learned or to give them a preview of what they were going to learn. 

I realize they don’t work super well for some classes, but for others, they are an effective strategy to begin class with. 

Do you use a bell-ringer activity in your class? What kind of questions, prompts, or activities do you have your students respond to? If you’re not currently using a bell-ringer, perhaps you might consider giving it a try as you begin a new school year!

Four Square Slap Jack

We’re down to the last few weeks of summer break where we live, and we’re feeling it! Since I don’t have the energy to take all five of my kids to the splash pad or pool every day, I’ve had to use my creative energy to come up with activities for them to do. That’s not to say that I provide them with entertainment every second of every day— they have plenty of time to use their own imaginations and come up with their own fun. Sometimes they just need a little encouragement from me! 

I recently saw a fun idea that someone had posted, and decided to put my own twist on it and share it with you. I’m calling it Four-Square Slap Jack, and the goal of the game is for players to be the first to put their hand down on a paper whose category was NOT called out. For example, players have four papers in front of them, each with a different shape printed on it (circles, hearts, stars, and triangles). The caller calls out a category, and players race to put their hands on any other paper than that which was called. So if “hearts” was called, they place their hands on circles, stars, or triangles. 

This activity is great for younger kids, as it helps with shape recognition as well as hand-eye coordination, both of which are great skills for kids to learn and practice. It’s also a great activity to promote careful listening. I know I’m not the only parent or teacher who loves a fun game that is also educational! I’ve attached the game and instructions below— feel free to print off a copy and have fun. 

Oh, and as an added bonus, this game is great for days when you’re completely exhausted and just can’t muster up the energy to run around and play with your kids— it’s easy to play while relaxing on the couch!

This game can also be used in the classroom as a group activity or even a whole class activity.

** The printable game is free to download, but please do not re-sell, distribute, or claim as your own.**

The Great Cell Phone Debate

Last week, our school district sent out an email containing their new cell phone policy. My kids are still too young to have a phone, but I read through the document so I was aware of the changes. For elementary and middle/junior schools, cell phones must be left in backpacks and settings must be that they cannot receive notifications during school hours. If a student needs to contact a parent or guardian, they must either go to the office and use the school phone or they can take their cell phone to the office and use once they are in the office. Smart watches are ok to be worn, but must be set so that they cannot receive or send notifications. For high school students, rules are the same, but phones can be used during class changes, lunch break, and before/after school hours. 

The new policy was received with mixed reactions, as one would expect. I was at a neighborhood gathering later that day, and it seemed to be a big topic of conversation. All of the adults were happy about the policy, but all of the teens I spoke with were less than thrilled about it. Which, honestly, is exactly what I expected the reactions to be. 

The teens were not excited about not having instant access to their phones. “But what if my mom needs to text me during the day?” one of the girls asked. To which I told her, “If it’s a big enough emergency, she can call the front office, and they will get a message to you! If it’s not a big emergency, then it can wait!” … She was not excited about my answer. 

I think her response was rooted in more than a fear that her parents wouldn’t be able to immediately get hold of her; I think it was based in panic that her phone wouldn’t be right with her at all times. We have all become so used to having our phones in our hand, pocket, or purse at all times that the thought of being without it often causes an uneasiness and uncertainty. It’s an interesting phenomenon that is unique to this period of time. 

From a teacher’s perspective, I see some great benefits from this new policy. I love the idea of phones being completely out of sight and not on them all the time. Digital distraction is real. I haven’t been in the classroom for eight years now, so this problem wasn’t nearly what it is now, but I would have really loved not having to ask students several times to put their phones away— and I had a no phones policy in my classroom! The idea of having my students be more present in class is one I can get behind. The focus that can come when a device is not attached to someone is incredible. There is also the problem of devices being used to cheat on assignments or tests. I’d like to say that all teachers are super aware and on top of things that are happening in their classrooms, and would be aware enough to catch a cheating student, but I think we all know that just isn’t the case, unfortunately. Not having phones immediately available is a good thing when it comes to sneaky students who want to cheat. 

I remember allowing my students to use their phones to read (I taught English, and we did daily reading time). We also often had times where I allowed students to listen to music with headphones while we did independent work— most of them had music on their phones, so it worked really well and made for a very quiet classroom. Sometimes phones came in handy during writing/research assignments when we weren’t in the computer lab and someone needed to look up a quick fact or something. Even though phones were useful for these things, I don’t see a no phone policy being a problem today, as most secondary students are issued their own school-owned Chromebook that they can use. And honestly, reading from a real, physical book is quite a treat and is not all that inconvenient. 

The other question that arises is should the district be able to dictate this kind of thing for teachers? Should teachers be able to institute their own cell phone policy within their own classrooms? Obviously, most teachers would likely be on board with phones being out of sight during class, but there are some teachers that do allow for occasional phone use and have a little more flexibility. I don’t know if there are any easy answers here.

What I do know is that when at school, students need to be focused and present. The texts, posts, and games can wait. Education is crucial, and it’s alarming how many students today don’t think it is. We cannot avoid phones and other digital devices— they are almost a necessity for living in today’s modern society. But we can be better about when and where we use them, and I know we can definitely be better about how, when, and where we allow our children and students to use them. Their young, developing brains do not need screens all day every day. In fact, they’ll be better off with minimal screen time. 

While this great cell phone debate is real, is a hot topic, and doesn’t have easy answers, it’s one we face today. Where do you stand on this issue?

The Spartans of Education

This past weekend, my husband and our two oldest boys ran a Spartan race— a grueling race that includes running along dirt trails for a specific distance all while conquering obstacles along the way. The kids’ races ranged from 1-3K with 10 or so obstacles, and adult athletes could choose between a Sprint (5K + 20 obstacles), Super (10K + 25 obstacles), or the Beast (21K + 30 obstacles). The race course was at a ski resort, which meant steep hills and mountainous terrain. It was 90 degrees outside, and we were at a base elevation of 6,391 feet. It was indeed a test of mental and physical strength and stamina, and was certainly not for the feint of heart. It was truly inspiring to watch the athletes compete and overcome the challenges with which they were faced. 

Some of the obstacles athletes were asked to complete were less intense (like crawling through a tube or crawling under a tunnel), while others were much more intense (such as lifting and carrying a 60 pound ball from one end of the obstacle area to the other and back again, the rope climb, or the inverted wall climb). The obstacles by themselves would be challenging, but not impossible; add in the above mentioned factors of temperature, terrain, elevation, and distance to run, and the obstacles suddenly become much more daunting.

As I’ve reflected on the race over the past couple of days, I couldn’t help but think about how the whole race experience relates to education. At the beginning of each school year, we are given a new set of students, each with their own abilities, talents, likes/dislikes, and interests. They each have their own race to run alongside their classmates, and they all have obstacles to overcome. 

For some students, math may be their rope climb, where they find themselves finally making progress just to start slipping back down as a new concept is introduced. For others, science may be their inverted wall, difficult to gain traction on and overcome, while it may be a tunnel crawl for others, fairly easy to get through. 

It was interesting to watch athletes help each other overcome obstacles. I watched as one friend easily made it over a set of 6 foot hurdles, only to turn around and go back to help her friend by offering a boost to get her started. I watched complete strangers finish the rope climb, then turn to offer strategies and advice to athletes before they took their turn on the rope. I watched as my husband helped another athlete get his footing during a sand bag pull. I was grateful for the four people, all strangers, who stopped and immediately helped my husband when his calves cramped up and he couldn’t walk. As my husband finished the race, two of those people who helped him were waiting for him at the finish line because they “just wanted to see him finish.” It became clear that the people offering help to others weren’t in the race to be the fastest or the strongest. They were there to prove to themselves that they could do it, and to help others do the same. 

As our students learn and grow throughout the year, they are met with many challenges, and some may be in it for themselves, but most are not. Most kids are willing to help their classmates, be a friend, and cheer each other on. It’s remarkable to see the difference it can make when struggling students are boosted by their peers. There is a new light in their eyes when they see that other people believe in them and want them to succeed. 

So while they may be running in the same race, not all students will face the challenges with the same ability or confidence. As teachers, we get the unique opportunity to help facilitate the kind of relationships within our classrooms that will encourage, build, uplift, and carry. We also get the chance to do those things ourselves for our students. We get a front row seat to see our students progress, learn, grow, and thrive. We get to be their cheerleaders, give them boosts, and provide them with tips and advice on how to conquer their challenges. And that, my friends, is one of the coolest parts of being a teacher.